Here are some great articles in case you're not 100% up to speed on "gender neutrality" and Gender Neutral Parenting (GNP):
- 5 Myths About Gender Neutral Parenting by Paige Lucas-Stannard
- Can you really raise a genderless child? by Anna North
- Honest thoughts on my son playing with "girls toys" by Joe DeProspero
There are more and more times since my son was born that I'm grateful for the time that I live in. Gays no longer have to hide who they truly are, we're free to love amongst the races and there is more open-mindedness and acceptance for people of all walks of life. This is the world I always wanted for my son. My only wish for my son is his happiness - whatever walk of life he chooses, I just want him to be happy. He'll have my love regardless, that after all, is unconditional.
I am a proponent of GNP, but not stringently so (like the couple in Anna North's piece above). My son routinely plays with my purses, clothes, shoes & makeup. Let's be real here: he's only 2. He sees mommy using it and he's curious. I don't believe for a second that my son exploring and playing with these items is going to fundamentally alter who he is as a person.
When my husband & I decide to conceive another child, I'm going to purposely buy my son a doll (and probably a play crib and stroller) - why you may ask? So that he can adjust to the new baby in our lives by doing what mommy & daddy do - feeding the baby, walking the baby and putting the baby to sleep. If anything, should some of this experience stick with him subconsciously, I'd like to think it will someday contribute to him being a good father for his own children.
In general, I really don't define toys as for one gender or another. Do I purposely buy my son dolls? No. Does he play with them at school? Yes. Does this bother me? No. If we happened to be at the store, and he communicated to me that he wanted a doll - would I buy him one? More than likely. The only way my son will ever grow and learn and become who he is truly meant to become is by exploring all of the options available to him - and I want that for him, I want him to discover what he truly loves and commit to those things with a passion that will bring his life happiness.
What are your thoughts on Gender Neutral Parenting (GNP)? Do you think gender stereotypes will ever truly disappear? Should they?
Disclaimer: this post is purely my opinion and is not meant to offend any one in any way. If you choose to comment on this post, please do so respectfully.